Would I still Stand?

I stand up for what I believe in. It is something I have done for a while. Most of the people who know me like this quality and tell me never to change it. But I encountered a situation where standing up for another person caused me to, in a way, be “persecuted” for my beliefs. I am not a person who normally goes around starting drama, but I can’t help but to defend others when I see the need.

Without going into too much detail, there was a situation months ago where I basically jumped into an argument that I was not a part of to defend someone who was close to me. A few days ago I was told I was not welcome somewhere because the person (we will call them the bully) I argued with in that earlier situation was going to be there. I was not told this by the bully but by a person who I thought was my friend.

The part that hurt the most is that I am not the only one who does not get along with this bully; I was just the only one to be singled out and not included. Now because of my bravery to “stand up to the bully” and stand up for my beliefs, I was pushed aside by a former friend to “avoid the drama.”

So tell me, why do I feel like I did something wrong standing up to the bully? This is why bullying continues to happen, because instead of facing it, we try to “avoid the drama.” Then the people like me who were brave enough to stand up get kicked down because we caused waves.

Now ask me if I could go back to that day where I argued with the bully, knowing that it would cause me to be an outcast right now, would I still stand up?… Damn right I would.

Our history is full of people who stood up for what they believed in and were then persecuted, but they did it anyway knowing that one day things would change. I will continue to stand for myself and for those who need someone to stand for them because that is what I believe in.



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3 responses to “Would I still Stand?

  1. Cindy

    “I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.”
    ― Mother Teresa
    You cast a stone and it created ripples. Maybe the first stone had just a few ripples (opening your eyes to who your true friends are not and the nature of many to value keeping the peace over doing the right thing, to name a few), but the more you throw, the more ripples you’ll create. I hope you realize with blogs like this you are creating ripples, and I sincerely hope you you will keep posting your wonderful stories and thought after the semester is over. 🙂

  2. J Rod

    Astronaut Jim Lovell once said, “There are people who watch things happen and there are people who make things happen”. If you are one of the people who make things happen you will always have some opposition. People are scared to rattle swards because they care too much about their own personal image. Worst of all they hurt people by their own shot sidedness like you have experienced. The only way they can validate that they are right is to make their opposition feel like they are the worst, most hated person on the face of the Earth. Sen. Ted Cruz comes to mind when I think about this, you see what people did to him. I am glad to see you still have strength of the sole and stand firm for what you believe. If having these qualities are easy to have more people would have them.

    As for your friend, yes it is a letdown for someone who you thought you could trust throws in lots with the other person but some people are not strong and don’t know how to deal with adversity. Its times like these when people show their real colors and you learn what they are made out of. However, your true friends will always be willing to stand with you, arm in arm, toes on the line because the cause is just. Your fight is their fight and your pain is their pain.

  3. I remember finally deciding to speak up once to a friend at the time and boy oh boy did it ruffle feathers. So much so, that she unfriended me and my kids and no longer speaks to me. Not much of a friend I say…however, I will admit to feeling quite hurt by it all. I’m not one to normally speak up so I shocked myself and lost a few friends. You did good and I love your attitude.

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